I am very miserable

Hi, I have dealth with the same issues for years. There was no diet that helped, it only makes the obsession worse. THe only thing that has helped is a book I ordered online at Amazon called "It's Not about the Food". This book really made me realize what an obsession this whole thing is with starting over, dieting, counting, exercise to lose wt. Bottom line, there are no more starting over days, no more forbidden foods, excerise is for fun and to feel good, NOT for me to lose wt. No more talking to friends about weight and food and calories. When I gave up all that obsession and crazy thinking and image and looks stuff, the binges have subsided. It breaks the cycle. Many questions in this book that one can ask themselves to think what is really going on. Good luck. Raven

RavenRaven you give me hope. i have read book upon book and everything you just said is in those books, I have just yet been able to do it successfully. I try to allow myself to eat whatever I want but I do it with a guilty feeling, that even though I am allowed to eat that brownie, it will go straight to my thighs. So then I say I don't want the brownie I'll have some popcorn. And from there I have just about everything! I tell myself I really love to run, but I honestly don't know if I do. My bingeing has distorted my thoughts in every part of my life and I really can't tell what I do and don't enjoy doing, eating, etc. anymore :( What do you think I should do?

Hi Zj, Sorry it took me so long to reply, I was out of the office. I know how you feel, I too read many many books and could not apply the info. and stick with it. However, this book called "It's Not about the Food" that I ordered somehow words it different and has really made me 'get it' I have only binged once in several weeks since I read the book, I refer to it every couple days of just read a few pages. I have been able to start liking my body better, stopped the guilt, the dieting, the bingeing, no more starting over, no more obsessing about it. It's about being good to yourself, giving yourself understanding, no more judging yourself. It's really hard to explain, but if you read the book, you will understand it in a different way. I have stopped obsessing about losing or gainning weight, and by quitting all this mental BS, it has made me less likely to want more. I have a friend who is a counselor and she once told me this line I will share with you "It's none of your business what anyone else thinks about you". I was always thinking everyone probably thought I was fat, now it doesn't matter to me what anyone else thinks. I hope this makes sense. If you think you will be able to just quit suddenly that will be unrealistic. You will have slip ups and that is OK because once you quit the guilt, the dieting the bingeing, the obsessing, the starting over, the weighing, and the calorie counting, you have quit all that, so there is no way you can screw up anymore because there are no more rules, no more guilt, no more shame, no more obsessing, and over time it gets easier. Hope that helps you. Good day to you. Raven