binge eating worse after having a baby

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i am new here...so i am just trying to figure out how this works. i have been binge eating for a long time...probably about 22 years. for the most part i ignored it and managed to keep my weight. after having a baby 16 months ago everything has changed and i find that this is destroying me on so many levels. it is extremely out of control now since i over eat when i am anxious about the baby, work, my relationship, and things i have to do around the house. plus i don't want my daughter to witness this behavior. my husband doesn't know i binge eat, tho i believe he is starting to suspect it. i am scared that i can't break this since this has been pretty much all i have known all my life. even that makes me want to go eat. thanks.

 
By KellieMontgomeryLMFT on Tue, 02-14-12, 14:04

Using bingeing as a primary tool to cope with emotions you are feeling will wear not only on your body, but on your mind as well. Feeling of control is a very scary feeling, one that makes you want to gain control over your emotions by bingeing...the cycle progresses. I am hoping that you will not allow the shame associated with disorder to keep you from getting the help you need. Keeping this a secret from the most important people in your life also begins to weigh heavily on you emotionally. Posting here is an excellent start to realizing that you do need help with this and that no one can do it alone- particularly when this disorder has been so long standing. Is there anyone in your life now that you have talked about this with or would like to? Have you seen a therapist before or perhaps read a book about this disorder? These are options you may want to think about. It's good that you are seeking support on this site, you and definately not alone : )

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Kellie Montgomery, LMFT

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By mardit on Wed, 02-15-12, 07:22

i haven't really confronted this issue with anyone. i'll say something to my sister...like 'ugh, i ate too much food today' and she'll say she did too, but i know she didn't eat like i did. i am really scared for anyone to know. it is seen as a weakness in my family. any sort of emotional distress is a weakness. i am going to go to the book store tomorrow and look for some books to help me on this....odd, but i am worried about my husband finding out about the content of the book, so i am trying to figure out how i can mask the cover so it looks like another child psychology book or something. i worry about him knowing because we've been together only 4 years and i tried to hide any issues that i have had in the past. more or less because i don't need to go back there anymore. i was happy and didn't think it servered any good to our relationship to open those doors again. but it seems that this and many other issues are arising again after the birth of my baby. abuse, self harm, suicide. all these things i thought i got over, but i really haven't. i would like to speak to a professional, but it is hard to fit into my schedule. i will fit it in. i am seeing specialists for other physiological issues that i have and i work full time and i must see my baby at least for 1 hour a day. i only get to see her 2 hours a day with my work schedule. eventually i will seek therapy, i know i need it and i want it.

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By RavenRaven on Thu, 02-23-12, 23:16

there is a book called "It's Not About the Food", I ordered it online from Amazon. Its about stopping the obsession of dieting, constant thinking of food, no more forbidden foods, no counting calories, no working out to lose wt. only excersise for fun of it and for feeling stronger. When I quit all the obsessive thoughts and started realizing what this book was asking in many questions, the bingeing subsided. No more weighing on scale . VERY worth reading. Good luck

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